Life is full of paradoxes that some say require balancing; however accepting an appropriate location on the paradox continuum, when dealing with the paradox conundrum, may be as good as it gets! An example of such a paradox follows:
- Change Leads to an End
- Change Leads to a Beginning
Many of us have a resistance to change. This can be driven by fear i.e. we are scared of the unknown and what may be out there as change occurs, or it can be driven by laziness i.e. we are very comfortable where we are (thank you very much) and we would rather not put in the effort needed to make the change happen. However, no matter our fear or our laziness we cannot avoid change.
Everything is in a state of flux – including status quo: Robert Byrne.
If we look back at our own lives, and are honest with ourselves, we will have to acknowledge that change is constant: we have to start school; we have to change school; we go to college; we start work; we get married; we have children; our friends and family move away or perhaps pass away; and we get older every year (actually each minute, second…). If we are honest again, we would further acknowledge that while some of these changes have been hard (and some may have been very hard) they all led to new beginnings – many of which have put each of us in a better place. This better place may have occurred immediately e.g. when our children were first born; or later e.g. after losing a job and finding a different/better one later, following some or many trials and tribulations. In the past I have had many colleagues who have been “down-sized, right-sized, laid-off…”, and later when I met them they have all invariably said that the change was the best thing that ever happened to them. Their only regret was that they had not independently made the change earlier.
The key lesson here in life and work is to understand that change is constant and that, as a minimum, we have to accept and deal with it. However rather than look at change as merely something to accept and deal with, it may be much better to appropriately acknowledge what we are losing and at the same time open ourselves to all the new opportunities that change brings i.e. find the right balance on this paradox continuum.
- Embrace Change for its Opportunities